It's amazing what beliefs we have as humans that eventually we find are false. That's humans for you! We have a belief, and stubbornly, blindly go on believing it, without adequately researching, without asking others with different beliefs why our belief may be true, or not. 

As a therapist, I found most patients with anger see red, literally. Yet some patients with anger see everything as blue! Now, scientists have discovered people don't see the same colours. Most people see red strawberries and blood, but some see them as blue!

Some years ago, I was in an Indian Restaurant near Soho, London, with my daughter and her boyfriend. My daughter commented, "I love this top, dad. Lilac suits me." (Or some such comment - this is the gist of our conversation.)

"That's not lilac," I replied. "It's olive green."

"No it's not," she said emphatically. "I hate olive green. It's lilac."

My friends and I have always said she's special - kind, caring, inwardly spiritual, and highly intelligent. But she was also young and stubborn at that time, so I turned to her boyfriend for help. "What colour do you think it is?"

"Olive green."

"Men!" my daughter scoffed. "Men have no idea! It's lilac. I'd never wear olive green."

I obviously needed female support, so turned to a table nearby, and asked the women. They all replied "Olive green." 

That's when my daughter's mouth fell open in surprise. She's an academic, and often changes her mind immediately if there's adequate evidence to contradict her previous beliefs.  

She seemed in deep shock. "All my life I thought that colour was lilac." 

"It's OK," I said. "People learn names of colours from boxes of paints or pencils they're given as children. Maybe you had a box of paints with the wrong label? Maybe your olive green paint was labelled lilac by mistake?"

She nodded, a little relieved, but still looked shocked. "I've got to relearn what colours I'm looking at. What else do I believe that's not true?" 

Many times after that, my daughter spoke about her shock at realising she can be so wrong. 

Like most of us, I'm sure even nowadays she has incorrect beliefs. I often say to patients, "You may only know the truth of what TRULY happened in your life, after you die." 

Seeing colours is a good example of how incorrect or frail our beliefs can be. On courses, I ask my colour therapy students, "Have you ever argued over what colour you see?" Almost everyone has! If you can argue about what colour you see, what else do you see in your life incorrectly?  

Tammy Hughes, in the Daily Mail, mentioned 2009 findings that made researchers say no predetermined perceptions are ascribed to each wavelength. 

"Scientists now believe that although people's brains tend to behave similarly at birth, neurons are not configured to respond to colour in a default way. Other research shows different perceptions of colours do not change our emotional response to the same shades. People's reactions to the colour 'blue' tends to have a calming effect due to the shorter wavelengths of light hitting the retina. Longer wavelengths (yellow, orange and red) can make us more alert."

The color vision scientist, Joseph Carroll, from the Medical College of Wisconsin, said: "We can say for certain that people don't see the same colours." 

Neitz said: 'I would say recent experiments lead us down a road to the idea that we don't all see the same colours.'

Here's what other readers say. 

I'm glad I read this article, I have spent my entire life defending the accusation that I am colour blind. I see colour fine, but the names of the colours confuse me and puts me at odds with others!
- Gwyn, Newport, 01/7/2012 13:47

Sounds like a good excuse for the idiots who drive through red lights.
- gk, uk, 01/7/2012 12:32

So to leave you with this thought for today...

If you've ever argued about what colour you see, maybe your belief was wrong - or you argued because you both had wrong beliefs. Similarly, unless you argue with others about 'facts' in your life, you may misinterpret your life, and the events that shape you.  

Medical research cannot now be trusted, and almost 50% of scientific findings are false...    

Jon Rappoport's website, www.nomorefakenews.com is sometimes taken with a pinch of salt. But this investigative journalist often uncovers news of genuine concern. On June 28, 2012, he posted the article below about USA's Food and Drug Administration (FDA). I've edited it for this blog.  

"The FDA is aware their approved medical drugs kill 100,000 Americans a year.
1. Some doctors who sit on FDA panels have financial ties to the very companies whose drugs they are okaying. 
2. Drug companies run clinical trials of new drugs on humans before FDA approval can occur. And those clinical trials are written up and published in medical journals - giving credibility before FDA approval.

Studies claim drug after drug is safe. But the drugs kill 100,000 a year just in USA.  

Conclusion? The published studies are fraudulent. Not just a few studies. Hundreds and thousands of them. The drug companies are providing studies that are outright criminal lies.

"It is simply no longer possible to believe much of the clinical research that is published, or to rely on the judgement of trusted physicians or authoritative medical guidelines. I take no pleasure in this conclusion, which I reached slowly and reluctantly over my two decades as an editor of The New England Journal of Medicine." Marcia Angell, MD, "Drug Companies and Doctors: A story of corruption." NY Review of Books, Jan. 15, 2009.

Mainstream medical advocates attack so-called alternative or natural health, and mention their profession is real science. One doctor said, "Published peer-reviewed studies keep us from going back to the Stone Age." He was dead wrong. The science is a sham, it's in tatters, it's broken, crushed, smashed.

Here is more evidence.  
"Flu Warning: Beware the Drug Companies. Six years ago, John Ioannidis, a professor of epidemiology at the University of Ioannina School of Medicine in Greece, found that nearly half of published articles in scientific journals contained findings that were false." NY Review of Books (May 12, 2011) by Helen Epstein 

Don't ever let a doctor tell you there's no adequate evidence for complementary and alternative medicine - when almost 50% of their medical research is false!

Many patients who lose a partner or loved one, experience heart attack symptoms. Some die. Yet tests reveal no 'normal' heart problem. Latest research by the Imperial College, London suggests stress of a loss produces too much adrenalin for too long.  

This results in reduced heart pumping and acute heart failure, but most patients recover fully in days or weeks. Other have severe health problems, or die. (See comments below) 

Professor Sian Harding stated that: 'Adrenaline’s stimulatory effect on the heart is important for helping us get more oxygen around the body in stressful situations, but it can be damaging if it goes on for too long.' 

Research also showed some drugs such as beta blockers cause the condition to worsen.

Dr Alexander Lyon commented: 'Currently it is not fully known how to treat these patients.' He is also from London's Imperial College.

Dr Shannon Amoils, who is the BHF research advisor, suggested: 'This is a fascinating study which presents a possible explanation for the signs of Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, a rare condition that’s usually preceded by intense emotional or physical stress. Patients usually have symptoms that resemble those of a heart attack but nearly all fully recover after a short time.'

Although the research was on rats, there is much theoretical evidence about humans. (See below.) Some people with a broken heart can't get over the loss, and become ill for a long time. Sadly, some die. 

Comments by readers of this article include the following:

Friends of our family who were a married couple who had been together for over 60 years in marriage. The wife died on a Tuesday, heart attack i believe. A week later to the day the husband also died, we believe from a broken heart. Neither of them had had any seriious illness in their lives at all.
EXPAT, GRNL, 28/6/2012 12:31

I agree with the sentiments here. When my wife died, the pain was so intense that, although I had no thoughts of self-harm, I could not see how I could possibly keep living through it. Even a year on, though the pain has diminished it is still very palpable. I do know, now, I no longer fear death. I will do what I can to still live a long healthy life, but, to me, death means a final coming back together with my beloved.
- Ken, Brisbane, Australia, 28/6/2012 00:24

The same thing happened to me after my husband died this february. It still feels like a lead weight in my chest.
- Ellen, Atlanta, GA USA, 27/6/2012 23:17

My heart felt like a hammer had shattered a glass heart....it hurt physically, mentally and emotionally.
- AliceMc, Somewhere, 27/6/2012 19:03

A very good article. For me it felt as though I should be bleeding as the pain was so strong after my husband died.
- Eileen, Aberdeen, 27/6/2012 18:32

It was reported here recently that in the week following the February 2011 earthquakes at least twenty women (no men, which was interesting) had died of heart failure. These women had no history of heart disease and their hearts were found to be perfectly healthy, but they just stopped. The doctors are calling it 'broken hearted syndrome' and it's terribly terribly sad.
- Michelle, Christchurch NZ, 27/6/2012 16:12

Anybody suffering from a broken heart will tell you it is a physical pain, the worst ever. I'm not surprised that the body has a way of coping - if not, you really would die from a broken heart.
- Annie, The Rock, 27/6/2012 16:11

If you need help with a broken heart, please let me know. My 100% free therapy might help.

The journal, Circulation, published this study. Funding for the study came from the British Heart Foundation (BHF), the Wellcome Trust, the Academy of Medical Sciences, and the Biotechnology and Biological Sciences Research Council (BBSRC).
Reference http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2165458/How-broken-heart-syndrome-PROTECTS-grief-stricken-dying.html#ixzz1zAa2c7H0 

Daily requests arrive for help with physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual problems. Today someone emailed who is potentially possessed by violent spirits. 

I publish this with my reply, because if someone tells you they're possessed, these are initial questions to ask... Then forward answers to me for healing suggestions...

Dear Allan 

I have had three relatives and a psychiatrist in spirit form sitting inside my body since the summer of l986 the first anniversary of his death, and I have no idea how to get them out.

I have tried to get exorcists and or deliverance ministers to help me but can't find anyone who will believe that I know the spirits doing this to me.

I have told my story all over the internet in paranormal sites, and well just about anywhere anyone will listen but very  few believe me, and even my relatives on earth think I am just making this up to make myself sound more important.

I am at the end of my rope so to speak but I read your articles tonight and think maybe there could be hope so can you help me to understand how to make them get out of my body?

They say they will not get out for me, and if God wants them out let him prove he can take them out. 
Any help you can offer will be greatly appreciated.

These spirits are very violent against me and at first I was terrified but now I am not frightened just in pain from their violent attacks and their interferring in my everyday life.

Sincerely,
Linda

Dear Linda
Thank you for your email. For me to try to help you, I need to know more details please.

1. Please describe exactly what happened when your three relatives and psychiatrist came inside your body. Any feelings, thoughts, visions, smells, sounds etc.

2. Are all these four people dead?

3. What are their names, and what dates did they die? 

4. The first anniversary you mention, was that the first anniversary of the psychiatrist's death?

5. What were your relationships like with all these people before they died?

6. Please explain in detail the types of things each of these people say to you.

7. Please explain in detail the types of violent and physical things each of these people do to you.

This might sound like a lot of information for you to write, but it will help me understand what approach I might be able to take to try to help you.

Best wishes

Allan J Sweeney   

I know countless people who believe they are angels, and countless more who have seen, heard, felt or experienced angels. At last someone has written about the subject. 
http://netowne.com/angels-christian/angels/encounters.htm
Emma Heathcote says, people from all faiths and background experience angels. But they're often afraid to discuss angels, even with their spouse. Emma says, 
  
"Many people have written saying that I’m the first person they’ve told, or it’s only me and their husband they’ve told. People ask me not to mention their name because if anyone found out they’d be completely ridiculed. So its quite a big step for some people to write them down."

Imagine how much more difficult it could be for some who know they have wings, to say so openly. 

That's why I give talks about Angels on Earth in public - but have groups of Angels in Earth in private. It gives real angelic souls a chance to discuss their lives, and to share their angelic love, only with other angelic souls, in safety.  

Depression is one of my subjects. I worked with a psychiatrist in a London clinic, and more often than not resolved cases of depression in one session. 

According to 'Dr Dillner' in the Guardian newspaper, latest research suggests mental health problems are more common than thought, but patients aren't getting the right help needed. 

Alastair Campbell, an English politician who wrote political diaries, had a breakdown, and ended up in hospital. He said, "Up until then I had resisted all attempts to persuade me that I needed help. When people started to write about this side of my life I made a conscious decision always to be open and to hope that people who have a bad breakdown can see it does not have to mean your life is over. I am actually very proud of my breakdown. Or the recovery at least. And of the fact I have sort of learned to live with depression."

Mental healthcare services need such public discussion. The Guardian newspaper reported that a London School of Economics report said, "a third of families have a member with mental health problems but only one in four people who need treatment are getting it. This is partly due to people not realising that they have got a mental illness but also because of a lack of resources to treat them."

Depression and anxiety, are most common. Even schizophrenia is under treated. Depression relapses for 50% of patients, but the other half can be cured

Few people diagnose themselves as depressed. Dr Andrew Jones, a GP from Surrey and the head of clinical engagement at the BMJ Group, said, "People often come to see me not with a mental health problem, but with the impact it has on their lives. They'll be struggling at work, not sleeping, drinking too much alcohol or getting headaches. But they know somewhere that it's not really the problem."

Dr Jim Bolton said, "We all know what it is like to feel sad when something bad happens but with depression the feelings go on for much longer and you don't bounce back. If you think you are depressed or anxious you should see your GP. It won't be an uncomfortable conversation. A lot of sadness is entirely appropriate, but depression seems to carry on when the events have resolved. We all have a certain resilience and vulnerability. One person might see something as a challenge while another will feel overwhelmed by it and that will depend on their life experiences, upbringing and genetic factors."

Another GP, Helen Lester, who is professor of primary care at the University of Birmingham said, "We don't know enough about depression to explain it. The evidence is unclear about the interaction between genes and the environment. Depression is divided into mild or moderate and severe. If someone has mild depression, I talk about changes they can make to their lifestyle such as reducing how much they drink, advising them to sleep properly and to exercise. They can also be prescribed online cognitive behavioural therapy to do once a week for two to three months. It is quite hard work: people have to note their negative thoughts and learn how to think about positive things. I rarely prescribe on the day. I would ask you to look up antidepressants and the side effects, for example 5% will get diarrhoea, and to chat to friends and family about whether you should take them. Then a week later I would ask you to come in for a review. Often women in particular will say they hadn't realised some of their friends had been on them. This normalises it – mental illness is not this terrible scary thing that means you are going mad." If you do take SSRIs it can take two months to feel different and you will need to continue to see your GP while you are taking them. I say from the start that they will need to take them for 12 months." 

Sheila Gill is North London psychological therapist, and has co-authored a book, Therapy for Beginners. She says, "When people are depressed they can debride their lives of activities, which makes them feel even worse. We try to get them up, moving about and doing things. Normally when you're tired you need to rest more but the fatigue of depression is such that going to the gym or other physical activity, even walking to the corner shop, may help you to feel better. If you walk home along a different street, choose a different kind of sandwich or sit in a different chair, you may begin to feel that you can begin to change bigger things. I also tell people to begin to adopt an attitude of kindness towards themselves. In depression, the single most important thing to challenge is negative thought processes."

If you need further help, please contact me direct - I have helped many with a simple guided therapy over the phone. One memorable case was a lady, hospitalised with depression. After one session she was cured. Her psychiatrist asked to meet me... But that's another story...  


samaritans.org 

Angels have communicated with me for many years. I've seen angels appear in healing sessions, to cure my patients in one session. 

For example, as I was driving one day, a friend, Rebecca phoned to say her 6-year old nephew was in hospital with meningitis, unconscious. 
I parked the car just before the motorway, and tuned in with a distant psychic healing, remote viewing, method.
(I teach this method on Psychic Development Classes)
From my car, in my 'mind's eye', I saw a blond haired boy, lying on his side in bed. 
Thick fog swirled around him. The fog felt wrong, bad, as if it had a deadly intelligence.
I asked for help from an angel, and watched it stand over the child.
Gently, the angel wafted its wings against the fog, slowly pushing it away.
When all the thick fog was away from the child, the angel flapped its wings.
The horrible fog was forced to rise high and away, to be dealt with by 'higher forces.' 
As the angel disappeared, I saw the child open his eyes.
Rebecca phoned back and confirmed the boy had blond hair, was lying on his side, and opened his eyes at the exact time I'd seen it happen. He was cured in that moment. 

It's always a blessing to hear of others who also see angels, and achieve angelic cures, and are taken seriously by the media. Here's an article from The Sun.

According to The Sun, 24 year old Kyle Gray, from Greenock, Renfrewshire, Scotland, said, "I see angels standing next to people they protect... they whisper to me." From childhood, he knew he was different. He saw and felt things other people couldn’t – angels and spirits. He has now published his first book 'The Angel Whisperer – Incredible Stories Of Hope And Love From The Angels'.

The Sun gave extracts, on how he found his powers at the age of four, and a supernatural experience.

"I have learned to communicate with angels. Everyone has a guardian angel — sometimes several.

"And I have the gift to be able to see them as they stand by the side of their charges.They whisper to me as I speak to the humans. Sometimes it is traumatic. I’m often overwhelmed when I watch a mother’s tears as I explain that her daughter is safely in the arms of the angels.

"ALWAYS the angels bring goodness and hope.

"They can help you find whatever you are looking for in life and to be blessed with love in abundance. There may be things in your past — people, events, experiences — that make you question this, question who you are or what the future holds for you.

"I WAS once drawn to the aura of one little girl. "There are lots of angels around you, aren’t there?” I said. “They’re telling me that they helped keep you alive.”

"The girl’s mother looked at me in shock. She asked what else I could see.

"I replied: “There’s a huge angel standing with your daughter right now. They all know she warms the hearts of others and that’s why they’ve made sure to keep her safe.” As I talked to the woman, the angel told me: “This little one is very special.” I turned to the girl and said: “You’re going to do amazing things in this world.”

"At this point more members of the family came over and told me about her history. She had been born with a weak heart and had endured three life-saving operations. The angels told me they had intervened many times to ensure she pulled through. They said in her most recent operation, she had flatlined and been pronounced dead. The doctors were pulling the white sheet over her when suddenly she took a gasp of air and sat up. 

"She later told her family she had felt herself float out of her body and look down on the surgeons. While she was watching this scene, a voice guided her back into her body. That voice belonged to the angel who was whispering to me – and was now standing by the little girl." 

“I really want to believe in God,” said the lady on the train. “I can’t find a reason to believe in God. But I really want to.”

Intriguing... I often hear people who do or don’t believe in God, rarely someone who doesn’t but wants to.

“Why do you want to believe in God?”

“Because life would be so much easier.”

“Easier?”

“Yes, I could easily pass all my troubles to God. But I don’t believe.”

Hmm... How do I help this lady? Let’s try this... 

“In my 20s,” I said, “I researched why people believe in God. They fell into four categories. The first category was, because their family has a religion, they believe in that type of God too.”

“My partner is a Christian. He believes 100% there's a God. I want to believe, but can’t.”

“The second reason people believe,” I continued, “is because they’re in trouble, and turn to God for help, as a sort of crutch.”

“I’m in trouble,” said the lady, “but I wouldn’t turn to God, because I can’t find a good enough reason to believe.”

I looked from the train window at thick white mist on pale grey fields. Phew, this lady is so close to God, and yet 
so far ... “The third reason,” I said, “is upbringing in a culture, a nation that focuses on a particular God-belief.”

“I was brought up in a Catholic country. It didn’t make me a Catholic. Especially when I saw nuns abusing children.”

“Nuns are just being human beings. Some have genetically inherited faults. Just because you saw abuse does not mean you shouldn’t believe in God.”

“I know. I just need a reason.”

The mist outside the train swirled like giant balls of white candyfloss. “The fourth reason people find God is sudden enlightenment, an unexpected God experience. Like Paul on the road to Damascus, where God was revealed through blinding white light. I love hearing of sudden enlightenments, why people who did not believe, suddenly do.”

“OK...”

“Sudden God experiences cross boundaries of all religions. An atheist or agnostic in an Arabic country who had a sudden God experience would probably become Muslim. But an atheist or agnostic with a near identical experience in a Christian country would probably become a Christian. And so on.”

“Yes, I see that would happen...”

“Except some people have a God experience, and deny it. They think their mind is playing tricks, and even see a doctor or psychiatrist.”

“Oh dear,” said the lady. “That’s me. I saw a blinding bright light. I knew it was like Paul on the road to Damascus, and assumed I was ill. I saw a psychologist.”

“So, you had a reason to believe in God, but you turned it down?”

“Yes, I guess that’s it.”

The train pulled into the station, and the lady stood up to leave. “Perhaps God will help,” I said kindly, “and give you another experience, another reason to believe?”

She smiled as she left the carriage and stepped towards a bright white misty day.

I never fancied ‘Murder and Mystery’ evenings – as a loving being, they seemed bloodthirsty and horrid. ‘Why bring negative thoughts to Earth,’ I’d thought.  But friends laughed – they’d had fun...

So fun was on my mind at the Mayor’s Charity Fundraiser, a 1930s dinner + simultaneous Murder and Mystery play.

Most diners wore dinner suits. Our 1930s costumes, gathered from my wardrobe collection in minutes, were so authentic, diners thought we were actors! Dinner was superb, acting fun and laughter, and horrors of real murder far from mind.

Until after, at the bar.

A large, jolly lady in her 50s overheard my conversation about God. "God’s rubbish,’ she said without doubt. “You live, you die, that’s the end.”

“That’s not what most people think on this planet,” I said.

“There’s too much suffering. There’s no God, not even a kind one.”

“That age-old argument,” I replied. “Philosophers for thousands of years show God could allow suffering, and still be kind.”

“Impossible. You live, you die. There’s no God after.”

“The soul lives after. It’s been weighed. A dead person is grams lighter after death.”

“Rubbish. Have you ever tried to carry a dead person? They’re heavier!”

“People have seen dead loved ones.”

“Crazy imagination.”

This is a mystery… Why is she so adamant? “Academic research shows mystical experiences are real.”

She turned her back on me. That touched her... She hasn’t heard of academic evidence. A minute later she turned back. “Look, there’s no God, no life after death. We live, we die that’s the end. That’s why I want to kill myself.”

HUH? So that’s the mystery? She wants to murder herself... “You want to kill yourself?” I reflected back.

“Why wait. There’s no point to life. I’m always happy, never been depressed. Everything’s great. My husband and my life are wonderful. But there’s no point. We all die and that’s the end so why bother. Why shouldn’t I die now?”

Hmmm, way shouldn’t she die now? This was a real life murder and mystery – the mystery of why she wants to murder herself.

I was a Samaritan, on the end of a phone, helping suicidal people, so went into that mode. “May I ask, when was the last time you thought of suicide?”

“Today.”

Oh dear. Recent thoughts. A high risk perhaps. “How often do you think of suicide?”

“Most days.”

Hmm, she’s higher risk now. Most days... “And, would you mind if I ask,” I said gently, “if you ever did anything, what would you do?”

“I’d drive my car off the edge of a bridge and crash down a cliff.”

A method to die that takes an instant thought. This is a very high risk if there’s a bridge and cliff near her home. “And may I ask, do you know of a bridge over a cliff?”

“Yes. I drive over it every day.”

Oh dear, the highest risk. She’s thinking of suicide most days, the method is available, and just one thought would steer her car over the edge to die.

“Have you told anyone?” I asked.

“No, not even my husband.”

I was about to say more, but as if on cue from the wings of the stage, her husband arrived. “Time to go, love,” he said cheerily. She smiled. They kissed each other lightly on the lips, said goodbyes, and left.

Suicidal people are murder mysteries. They keep secrets of wanting to murder themselves, and the method they’d choose.

The Samaritans show evidence that if mysterious secrets of the why and how of suicide is revealed, the person is usually released from their burden.

I was left with only that hope. That now she’s told me her method, her secret feelings will be somewhat released. Hopefully, there’ll be no need for a post-mortem mystery on why she murdered herself. 

As a therapist, I regularly meet women who've been abused by their partner. Often, my role is to help them have enough strength to leave, when they see no way out.

For example, an Indian lady patient's husband physically abused her terribly. She couldn't leave because divorce is awful stigma in her culture. If family found out, she'd have to commit suicide. She thought the only way was to kill herself now, and not let family discover her marriage had failed. I helped her find strength of mind and emotion to achieve better options. I'll always remember, after her divorce she brought her ex-husband to a Reiki course! 

Today I met another type of abused lady. She'd only had three partners. The first was a controlling form of abuse; and the second broke her bones and 'stole' almost $100,000 from her. 

Unlike some women, she learned lessons. When she discovered her third partner was arrested for hitting his wife, she stopped the relationship immediately.  

In her words, "I'm happy. I learned in life. I went along with it and enjoyed it anyway, but learned not to take ‘the shit’. I tried to resolve things in my head, and not put myself in that abused position again. Not surround myself with people who are negative and destructive. You only want good people in your life, don't you?"  

She's in her late 40s and happy, but at times her physiogmony shows the inner stress of her abusive past.

Menopause may be next on her list of life stresses. 

My menopause patients fall into two main categories.
1. Women who had a wonderfully happy life, or an unhappy life fully healed through therapy. 
This category seems to have mild menopausal symptoms that don't last long.
2. Women who had a tough life that, regardless of whether or not they had therapy, are unhealed on deep inner levels.
This category seems to have tough menopausal symptoms that can last many years.

I've previously recommended to abused ladies the free book/therapy "SCREEN", and the CD "Two Therapies for Mental and Emotional Healing" on this website. These methods heal about 75% of emotional and mental problems in one session - before the menopause may bring problems to the surface.

My prayers today are, when this lovely, happy lady has her menopause, if she doesn’t have adequate therapy, that unconscious troubles don't cause a tough or prolonged menopause.