We sat outside a beach café near our homes, on curved Westgate Bay. Wind-surfers’ coloured sails leapt to the sky above white foam seas. It was cold, windy, and beautiful.
( See http://www.northdowns.plus.com/kentcoast/images/minnismargate/minnismargate-006.html ) My grandmother had 13 children; they each had 3 or four. Our families would take over a local beach or park with football, baseball, cricket etc. Sunny days meant happy daze. Tony is one of my 40+ cousins. He’s spiritual in nature, and philosophical in mind. ‘It doesn’t matter which Reiki you learn,’ he repeated, ‘because they all get the same results.’
‘I agree,’ I replied. 'Many "different" systems with different names are not much different. They just regurgitate other teachings. But some teachings are truly different, with better results for some illnesses.’
‘That’s not what I read. I haven’t found better results anywhere.’
A towering wave surged towards the wind-surfers. Just before the wave hit, they somersaulted high, hanging in the air under parachutes. After the wave passed, they landed on calmish water like a small flock of birds. But the wave hit one wind-surfer. He floundered in the sea, struggling to pull the sail up again.
‘That’s the analogy,’ I said. ‘Not all wind-surfers get great results. Some can’t somersault. Some sink. Some give up because results aren’t good compared to others.'
‘It’s the same in everything,’ Tony said. ‘Some plumbers get bad results, so do some landscape gardeners, even some doctors. My local doctor has bad results.’
Two more wind-surfers floundered badly.
‘Maybe it’s about trust,’ Tony continued. ‘Trust is the second greatest gift we can give someone. The first is love. But love without trust is not perfect love. How can I love and trust a Reiki healer to be better than other therapies?’
‘Check academic research?’ I suggested. ‘Find validated outcomes. You’ll see not every system achieves identical results.’
‘And your system...?’
‘It’s unethical to discuss cures with patients. But I try to cure where possible. After over 30 years in this field, I can’t help some conditions. Others I may philosophise on an approach. But others, I’m confident on curing. I have better results than orthodox medicine with, for example, emotions, depression, ADHD, grief, PTSD, fractures, even some cancerous tumours.’
‘So I need to love, and trust, you?’ Tony asked.
‘Trust comes from experience or research. If you experience a plumber's great job, you trust. If a terrible job, you don’t trust. Or, you research his results before you employ him. With me you can see before and after X-rays of fractures I’ve resolved, letters from patients whose tumours shrank, PhD research that over 90% of ADHD children are helped inside three weeks. And so on…’
‘I trust doctors,’ Tony said.
That's the therapy world. Why isn't academic research trusted evidence for intelligent minds? Perhaps few people want to know where to look. Trust truly is the second greatest gift. As if in agreement, as we said goodbye, trusted parachutes danced in the sky.